Communicating in Relationships: Part 2

We all know that communication with parents, family members, peers, and other trusted adults about sexual situations can be awkward. But think for a moment about how you would report abuse. Who can you turn to and how would you communicate about the situation? Disclosing abuse is difficult, but it is very important to put a stop to the cycle of abuse. Having a support system in place can help you through difficult situations.

In your mind, identify a person or people that you feel comfortable communicating with for help and support about any type of abuse. This might be somebody in your home or family, in your school, or in your community. Always keep this person in mind, particularly if there’s ever a time when you start to feel uncomfortable or violated. Now, make a mental plan of how you would handle reporting abuse. You might choose to write down what is happening in a note and slip it to a school counselor. Or maybe you feel more comfortable speaking with a trusted adult on the phone. Regardless of your plan, remember that communicating about the situation is the first step in getting help.

Every situation is unique, and you may find yourself struggling to maintain a consistent communication style. You may be passive-aggressive with your friends when they hurt your feelings, while you may simply be passive with adults for fear of getting hurt or into trouble. Either way, it is always best to communicate assertively when reporting a serious situation like abuse.

If you or anyone you know has experience with these or other difficult situations, it’s important to know that you’re not alone. Talking to a parent, teacher, counselor, family member, or other trusted adult can help you to resolve the situation before things become too difficult to control.