Preventing Abusive Relationships: Part 1

In addition to preparing for new situations, such as going to a concert with friends, you also need to make sure you are protecting yourself at home and at school. The first way to protect yourself is to know your surroundings. Know where the exits are in case of an emergency, and make a plan for where to go in case something happens. Being prepared is the best way to confront danger or emergency. For example, if there is a fire at your home or in your classroom, you would be prepared because of your regular fire drills that you practice.

You also want to identify a trusted adult at home and at school. It’s important to have someone you can confide in and trust, such as a parent, guardian, teacher, or counselor. They will be able to provide assistance to you when you need it. They will also be able to help you work through any emotions, feelings, or concerns you may have; identify any dangers that exist; and remove you from those dangers. This trusted adult will never judge you or blame you if you are a victim of violence, but they will stop the problem and remove you from the danger.

Be sure you are sharing private information only with trusted friends and adults, and also ensure that you are keeping private information away from others. With social media on our computers and phones, it may be tempting to post regular pictures and updates, but you need to be careful with what information you are sending. Never give out your personal information, such as your name, address, schedule, or school name, online, even if you think your privacy settings are restricting it to a small group. Never meet up with someone you meet online, no matter how long you have been talking to them. Additionally, never send nude or other inappropriate pictures to strangers or friends.

Everything you post on the Internet stays there forever. The posts, pictures, texts, and messages you send will be available for everyone to see for the rest of your life. Be sure you are keeping your private information private and keeping yourself safe in the process. If you are confused about what information you should post or the information you have posted in the past, talk to a trusted adult. Having an open discussion with them will allow them to take the steps necessary to keep you safe.

If you or anyone you know has experience with these or other difficult situations, it’s important to know that you’re not alone. Talking to a parent, teacher, counselor, family member, or other trusted adult can help you to resolve the situation before things become too difficult to control.